Women

The more and more I thought about Jeremy Corbyn’s idea (contender for the leader of the Labour Party) of “women only carriages” on trains and probably other transport the more it made me mad.

Have we really gone back in time where men cannot behaved themselves on public transport that there needs to be some sort of segregation between the sexes?

Who the hell do people thing they are if they think they have a right to haress another human being without provocation?   Particularly if they are only their own and its late a night?

Are these the groups that demand that we should have straight prides matches or complain that it’s a national women’s day? This very subject is the reason why we recognise the struggles that woman have gone through to be recognised and treated with the dignity that they deserve.

Constantly I hear people thinking that it’s fine and acceptable to use the word “birds” or “chick” or even worse when you switch on TV on hear the revolting mysognistic use of women music videos by rappers who thing called them bitch or whore is just part of their culture.

Just look at how they have hundreds of women beside them in their music just try and prop up their pathetic masculinity.

The first rule in life for a guy is the woman should be respected. She IS equal to the man although she is different. She does do difference things had has a different way of working things out. But that doesn’t mean is a less of a human being or stupid.

Reinforced stereotypes of women and the classification of their sex in some religion’s haven’t done thing to help or redress this. That doesn’t mean anyone can dress the way they want but it also doesn’t mean just because someone dresses in that way a women is automatically “up for it”.

If the fathers spent more time encouraging their sons to respect women and not reward them for scoring or getting to second base maybe just maybe we might be able to change things.

Women aren’t objects and they are allow to choose to what happens to their body. The heterosexual male firstly should learn.

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Sanctuary 2

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In November 2013 I went up to Holy Island and mentioned it in a small blog post. It has been difficult to try and get some peace at the moment. I am living next to a house that’s having an extension. This has included regular use of a circular saw through concrete. The irony of the day was that I passed two properties on the island having similar work done and the workmen using that dreaded saw.

Last week I had to sit on Waldridge Fell for nearly two hours just to try and stop the terrible headache I had because of the work that has been done. Looking for peace and quiet has been really difficult. The summer holidays aren’t the quietest of times.

So I will go back in the autumn or spring months and try and get some sort of sanctuary from noise and myself.

Well-being

In an international study, England ranks 14th out of 15 for children’s overall life satisfaction, coming ahead of only South Korea. Romania tops the list.

This headline is sad and worrying but it isn’t surprising. Spending the good part of twenty years working with young people I see these headlines and feel helpless at times. Just look at the way people speak to each other on social media not just young people but adults. 

Take for instance if an athlete wins a medal for their sport and someone will comment negatively. Not about what the person has achieved but you will see revolting personal remarks about them. Why? Why would you want to bring someone down who has achieved something? The textbook answer is that someone tries to bring an other person down to make themselves feel better. It certainly goes much further than this.

Read the news or see headlines when someone is brought before the courts because they have racially abused someone. Whether it be online or the high-profiled case of football fans racially abusing a black man on the Paris metro system. We think it’s almost our god-given right to say what we think about someone else. Regardless if this is hurtful or even against the law. Just because you think you have a right to say something doesn’t mean you need to say it.

Common sense and courtesy. Words that are used but rarely put into practice when it involves other human beings. No wonder that the biggest cause of young people misery is bullying.

I couldn’t sleep last night and at 3am memories of a former boss came into my head and I was trying to describe to myself what this person was like and how they had affected my well-being. The description I came up for her was a ‘life-forcer’ – someone who drains all the life force out of you through intimidation, bullying, lies and dishonesty. She drained anything moral and good about you and made you want to retaliate.

There aren’t many people who I have met who are like her. Borderline psychopathic. They have no concept of empathy and didn’t realise that what they were doing was harmful and dangerous. We all have the capacity to be like her but it is our choice to go down the path of being respectful and courteous. I was pulled up in a corridor and chastised in front of pupils, something unprofessional and unnecessary. I asked that she didn’t do this in a following conversation. She obviously bit my head off, chewed it and spat it out. I wouldn’t have expected anything less.

What can we do? Be polite. Show others that you can get ahead in life without the nastiness. Bullies never win. You will always be better than the horrible ones that will get to you and wind you up. We must instil into each generation of people that they are valued and loved. There will be people who try to bring you down but it’s their problem, they have insecurities and inadequacies. Learn to move on and surround yourself with those who love you.

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Good for you

Ignore the talking at the end. I would have removed that but that’s my opinion. My goodness this is a good song. I love when a song like this comes along it makes me feel so alive and happy. Enjoy it.

Exams 


Exams aren’t the be all and end all. What ever that means. It’s a means to an end. But that should never define what you are.

As a teacher I experienced having to set examiners for form classes. These were to determine what the likely results were of a student GCSEs. The exams where undertaken five years before they were due to sit their final exams. It was utterly ridiculous. Bracketing students into certain categories of a likely achievement was utterly wrong.

I was told when I was 14 that I wasn’t bright enough to sit ‘O’ level maths. It made me angry and more determined to do so. How dare someone tell you that you won’t be able to achieve.

I have always said that you are the person to choose your education. You are in charge of it. Not some idiot mathematics teacher.

So if you didn’t get what you wanted in your exams don’t worry the path might have changed but you can still achieve.

I didn’t do well in my GCSEs but I did pass my maths! I went to college and studied for a diploma in Theology. Then I did my BA Hons degree in Religion and Sociology. Finally ending up at Westminster College Oxford completing a PGCE in secondary RE.

I am not saying it’s easy. It’s hard work. But it’s up to you.

Work

When I qualified as a teacher in the 90s I knew that it was going to be tough. The hours and days that you spend just to make it through each week was phenomenal. To look towards a promotion or to make your career progress was going to take a big sacrifice.

In some parts of society there is a thought that success should be handed to some on a silver plate. That if you make it or become “famous” then you have made it. The followers of this blog will know my thoughts on those who clamber for fame.

I have been part of organisations and seen how people have worked for what they believe in. I have seen those who have put their heart and soul into their organisations and they have succeeded.

But and this is a big but, there are some who thinking that talking to others or networking isn’t part of making your business grow. I have people who are in the media and on TV who follow me on Twitter and from time to time there has been interaction. They have taken their time out to talk to you. Or they visibly have spoken to others. This is great for your ‘brand’.

In other words they are not sitting their with their finger up there ass on a pedestal. They are willing to give their time and effort to those people who put them there in the first place. They don’t neglect their roots and where they started.

Others who are starting off somehow neglect this. You want your organisation to grow get off your backside and work for it. Take every opportunity there is to promote what you believe in. This doesn’t mean becoming obnoxious like some sort of David Brent character. It means you are willing to open yourself to conversation and discussion.

It’s called work: